Welcome to Solemated

I have several interests and lead a very busy but exciting life. Most people who know me all say  i should slow down and go easier on myself, I don’t agree, I have 5 gorgeous children 3 of which are triplets so i am used to working hard and being on my feet. Somethings are not so easy and take effort, but its worth every bump and bruise life throws at you along the way.

I live with the outlook that i wont put off til tomorrow what i could do today, my partner is exactly the same so lifes never dull…

I tend to come up with ideas and want to try them then and there, I act spontaneously on a lot of things so found myself fire walking and board breaking for charity along with with usual love of Horse Riding, salsa and belly dancing this year, so as far as sitting at home and watching TV, that just isn’t me, I’ll sit and do that when I’m old and grey ..lol  ill have a lifetimes worth of Sex in the City then to catch up on…hehe

I started horseriding 18 months ago and love every moment of being at one with a creature who is just as enthusiastic as i am, its not about control, I’m not that type of person, I’m the type of woman that is happy as long as those around me are happy, its about having respect for people and creatures and finding day by day what exciting adventures mother nature holds in her palm, if I’m outdoors riding, on a beach or out walking through the woods, as long as I can feel the wind through my hair I’m always happy ..

I work hard yes! but with triplets (aged 11) and two teenage older brothers to love, life is always exciting and worth everything i have to give ..

I was a nightmare as a child as i was always cutting up my mums sheets to see what Sexy clothes i could make so have always loved designing and sewing. I started young and was the girl who would always come up with new outfits for my friends in needlework. I started training at 15 to be a tailor and worked hard for many years, the passion for ladies clothing has always been in me, I love clothes and making people feel good, so the two work  hand in hand very well. You can often find me sewing away in the early hours listening to my music…

Salsa is another or my great loves, my partner always said he had two left feet so was never very happy to get up and dance with me. As a girl Ive always loved dancing and that dream guy in my mind was a guy that i could dance with, who could sweep me off my feet. Thanks to classes and joining the huge salsa community there is out there, we have gone from the couple just sitting there, to the first ones up on the dance floor, its added so much energy and fun to our lives and put some spice into the relationship, its not just about dancing, its about being able to feel that connection together and flirt with each other while keeping fit! Thats got to be good in my books..lol

Im 40 now and loving every moment of it, I understand myself now and still look at life through excited eyes..

We all get bad days and indeed bad luck, ive had more than my fair share of that, but life has taught me that its not what we get, its how we deal with it that makes all the difference..

My first jumping lesson

My Family are the most important thing in my life and always will be..

My partner is a brilliant man and from day one has always inspired me to be the best i can be. He met me when lets just say, i was feeling at my worst, out of confidence and a year out of a very abusive relationship where i was a punchbag and emotional dart board for a man, we all learn and i learnt the hard way that valuing yourself first plays an important part of life.

I wrote an article years ago about my life how it was then, looking back now i don’t recognise the girl i once was, I’m stronger and more confident than i ever thought possible so looking back I’m proud that i found the strength to get out of it.

I have been with my current partner 16 years now and can honesty say the last 16 years have been the best ever, hes gentle and very caring yet still very exciting to be with, my guy has such a passion for life its infectious. He has a way of turning any ordinary day into a special one, I’m very lucky that the guy who knocked on my door all those years ago saw what was inside me and didn’t judge on how i looked on the outside, I was a shell….

I’m one of 4 girls so grew up in a hormone overdosed house, my mum has since moved to a little island called Tobago so i do miss her, although knowing she is happy makes her not being here with her grandkids worthwhile, shes living proof that you’re never too late to change your life’s direction if you are not happy, Moving from Norwich to the caribbean was a spur of the minute thing that she never looked back on.

My children are amazing and complete my life, they are noisy and at times demanding but very down to earth and really loving kids, I always said that someone ‘up there’ knew i had a good sense of humour so gave me triplets, it is true ! it was so hard when they are babies i had 4 under 2 at one point and was trying to work in between feeding and sleepless nights, but i wanted to try and keep myself sane , it wasn’t easy to juggle work and family but it was never dull that i can say..lol

I gave birth to the triplets at 26 weeks gestation and were told they only had a 10% chance of survival. Each of my kids had to fight for their lives with heart surgery needed on my daughter, a massive brain hemorrhage that came overnight on one of the boys with his brother constantly forgetting to breathe and gastric reflux. it makes you a stronger person that’s for sure, you had to stay strong for them.

Family life for me means the kids all helping out with whats needed, mum usually running around like a mad woman while they are at school but we are all very happy, dads also a brilliant cook so helps out alot and does most of the cooking here.

Friendship is very important to life, if i trust and care about people then ill go without for them, i hit a really hard time last year and realised then that the people I hoped I could count on turned out to be the ones I couldn’t, its one of life’s lessons, no one knows whats round that corner and having a friend pop round to say ‘Hi ‘ to brighten up your day does make a huge difference.

I make friends easily and love being around people, salsa and horse riding has brought so many smiles and lovely people into my life.  Its not about where you are, its all about who you are with, I have some great people around me that I’m lucky enough to count as my friends…

Music is so important to me, it can change my mood in an instant so on those days when you wake up struggling to find that drive turn up that inspiring song and watch the sunshine flood in..

I love all types of music, from rock to classical and just about everything in between, what i like to listen to does vary greatly on how i want to feel..

My beloved headset is my peace, my freedom and my character, its what i pick up when i need that time alone, you cannot beat walking up a beach somewhere with that wind through your hair listening to its symphony.

Ive heard people say that a world without music would be sad, in my life this would be true…

This is my way of describing music and its importance to my life 

They sit side by side, two beats that form the very core of my existence….

Each just as important… one controls my heart the other commands my soul..

Its part of me, my one closest friend who gets me through both my best and my worst days..

Hes the partner I rely on, the lover who awakens me, the child that gets me into mischief, but he is always there…

He understands when I’m hurt and sends words to soothe the pain, yet he can bring me to tears with his cruel chosen verse……

Hes part of my day, able to raise hopes and dreams that were once lost, my inspiration comes from his symphony as his beat flows strongly through me, no one holds me like he does, he sings just for me ..

When I’m tired he soothes.. he gently kisses me down and sends his shivers through my spine, fading away everything else except for him…

My day has disappeared, I can only hear him now , his voice whispers for me to listen quietly….

Hes my dancing partner who gets me moving in excitement, holds me totally captivated, yet he knows how well we move together and makes me wiggle to his every tune.. he sings harder and pushes me to exhaustion, i drown in his sweat..as he smiles wickedly…

Hes my bright sunny morning, who shines just for me, his warmth radiates and causes me to flush with happiness, I only blush for him …he is my first love …

Yet he can be so loud, so noisy, why do I never tire of his voice? hes trying to help, to keep me alive…he knows i will listen to him…so he speaks…                                                                                               

He watches me grow into the woman I am .  

He sends me words to make me feel sexy, such flirtatious words….Causing my body to ripple with excitement, he teases my thoughts to interrupt my dreams..He’ll never be happy, until he hears me sing his song…